If you’re following me on Twitter or Facebook you will have noticed that as of late I’ve been talking about topics that include the hashtag #feelgood. In other words I’m promoting to feel good!
Perhaps you’re asking yourself what is this all about and what do I mean by it, so here’s my introduction to #feelgood.
The first time I read a book on personal development was in 1986 and it was Dr. Joseph Murphy’s “The Power of the Subconscious Mind”. It opened an entire new world for me, nobody in my family new anything about this subject and while I was very suspicious I so wanted to believe it, it sounded fascinating – that you could control your environment with the power of your mind. And so I did a trial. Upon being presented with a new idea I usually give it the benefit of doubt but before adopting it give it a try.
I used a subject active in my life then and worked on it exactly as Dr. Murphy described. It involved mainly affirmations as far as I can remember now. The results where unbelievable. So much so that I couldn’t tell anyone, nobody would have believed me that I manifested what happened by the sheer power of my mind. In those days we didn’t talk about these things yet, well not openly anyway.
It was enough evidence for me, I knew this stuff is for real and it works. From then on I’ve been a relentless student of personal development. Have done many workshops, seminars, read huge amounts of books and become a full blown student of improving ourselves in order to live a happier life.
And I’ve come to the conclusion, that the only thing that really matters in our lives is to feel good.
When we feel good we deliver our greatest work.
When we feel good we inspire others.
When we feel good we have a solution to any problem.
When we feel good we look good.
When we feel good everything is easy.
When we feel good the world is a fantastic place to be in.
So it stands to reason to strive towards feeling good! However, that doesn’t mean that every day is a happy day. Actually feeling good doesn’t always equal being happy! Ha! Now there’s a thought.
With all the positive thinking movements of the last decades I believe we’ve come to a point where we think as long as we put a happy face sticker on it will all be fine. Well that’s nonsense, isn’t it. I know I certainly adopted a mindset of trying to turn everything negative into positive and of course, that is a good thing to do.
But it doesn’t always work that well. Because sometimes it’s not that easy to turn it into positive. And even if we manage it usually lasts only a short period of time. I remember a time in my life when I was severely depressed. The feeling of powerlessness was enormous but as much as I tried I just couldn’t dig myself out of the hole. I felt awful most of the time.
And then something happened that triggered anger in me – and wow, what a relief that was! The anger in this case helped me to get back some energy, which is almost nonexistent when feeling in despair, and with that I could start the process of changing my life again. But I needed that feeling of being angry to get to a point of feeling relief – which in that moment made me feel really good and it was the turning point.
Now I didn’t immediately jump into a being full of joy, far from it, but that’s also not the point. It simply doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a journey, a very rewarding journey.
Identifying your emotions, working with them, using them as an indicator of where you are in your journey are powerful tools. And #feelgood is all about learning these tools. Learning how to feel better when stuck in one of the negative moods and feelings. What to do when anger hits you, when it’s not anger that brings relief from despair but anger that has other causes. How can you get out of it? How can you manage it? How can you work with it? How can you find relief?
Relief. Such a sweet word. Relief is wonderful, it’s powerful. Relief gives us a break from the emotional turmoils going on inside. And relief feels good.
#feelgood is a reminder to check in with our feelings, listen to them, work with them and mold them to feel better every day. I hope you will join me on this amazing journey towards feeling better!